放開了,某些事

或許是深夜的影響吧?讀著一些文章,聽著音樂,心中有些東西似乎散去了。

時間總是不等人的,恢復與否還是得看自己。我呢?我選擇讓自己忙碌,忙碌到無暇去難過。然後在經歷過不少事後,走到了現在這一步。

這段期間內,我時不時會被回憶衝擊。發生的當下也只能裝沒事,同時控制好自己的情緒,以防陷入莫名低落,但充其量也只是表面功夫罷了。

不過也沒關係了。

能在今年結束前,放下一些事情與情緒,我想也是種幸運。

真的,不用再回頭了。

感謝自己能走到現在這一步,沒有因為低落而打敗自己。

感謝發生過的曾經,讓我走上了我該走的路。

雖然還是不想跟某些人事物扯上關係,但也只是因為看清了某些事。對於這點,我也抱持著感謝。

好了,繼續前進吧。

狠下心來,放下妳。

 

終於決定把我們之間的電子記錄全部清除。

清掉時,我沒有一點不捨。不是因為我恨妳,而是因為知道,我不該再繼續留著妳的影子了。

我們沒有在一起,相處的時間也十分短暫。可是在那短暫的時間內,我曾經很幸福。

雖然因為自己的不成熟而傷害了妳,進而親手搞砸了未來的可能性。但事後我仍然幼稚的想抓住跟妳之間的回憶,以為這樣就會有可能再次等到妳。

不過妳不會回來了。

我全心的愛著妳,在我心上留下深刻的痕跡。現在要放下這一切,對於巨蟹座的我來說,是多麼的困難。尤其是當分開的記憶仍舊清晰,美好的記憶則更是如此。

所以我狠下了心,不給自己留任何餘地。刪了就是刪了,不會再回來,如同我們消逝於時間中的情感般。

但是妳給我的卡片我還是留著,只是會埋在我櫃子深處的舊鞋盒裡,作為回憶保存著。等到某天,當我真正找到一輩子的幸福時,會再扔了吧。

至於腦中的回憶,就讓它慢慢變成養分,滋潤著我的成長,讓我能夠更好。

謝謝妳給的一切,現在我要狠心放下妳的一切,然後頭也不回的繼續往前走。

 

-寫於2016年2月25號


 

最近決定把之前寫的文章翻出來發表,是因為自己終於可以豁達的面對那些過往,而不再陷入那些情緒裡。

不會難過是騙人的,但這些難過再也無法束縛自己前進。於是我再次翻開過往,正視自己的傷口。

不論多久,終究會再次前進的,就像現在的我一樣。

 

 

 

追夢,真的很累。

這大概會是一篇充斥胡言亂語的網誌。

最近一直試圖讓自己忙碌,去掩埋因生活而造成的煩躁與擔憂。

表面上,可能看起來是快樂的吧。

事實上也不是不快樂,但也不是只有快樂。

原本以為會有後續的工作就這樣沒了音訊,接下來的日子就一直在找工作度過中。不斷的找尋機會,發佈消息及投遞履歷。然後可能獲得一個面試的機會,以為這次會不一樣。

事實證明,絕對不會是如此。

雖然確實多了一個新的機會,但這個機會也才剛起步,還得看接下來的發展才能定論。而這最需要的就是時間。

時間啊,我正是缺時間呢。

有時候跟幾個朋友聊天,他們會覺得我有膽量去追求我的夢想,是一件很了不起的事。或許聽起來很棒,可是真正的挑戰,是心理壓力。

每天睡到自然醒,是很多人夢寐以求的事。但我卻是因為晚上又睡又醒,然後白天沒有工作,才能如此過生活。至於為何又醒又睡,當然就是因為擔心找不到工作。於是就這樣,形成了一個循環。

醒來吃過飯後,我通常就得坐在電腦前,開始搜尋工作空缺。一頁又一頁的求職網頁,一則又一則的徵才佈告,看得我心裡都煩躁。

幸運的話,我會看到幾個我能做的工作,或是我有興趣的工作。我會投個履歷,打出一篇誠懇的電子郵件,然後寄出。接下來就是拜託老天爺給我個機會。

到了這時,我也差不多到了極限。根據日子的不同,我會出門去練舞或參加彈唱表演,以紓解一下煩躁的心情。這也是個跟朋友聚一聚的好機會。至少在那時,我不用擔心太多。

回到家後,再繼續看一下求職網站,有辦法的話再投個履歷。最後給自己一點時間聽聽音樂,或許再練一下琴,就得洗洗睡了。一切如此週而復始,等待著。

有時候會覺得,要是自己當初選擇一個技能性專業,例如會計或電子工程之類的科系,是否就不會需要擔憂這麼多?我就會有穩定收入,然後一點都不用擔心經濟問題。

不過,就算有了那樣的工作,可能還是會有煩惱。畢竟,we always see what we don’t have。更不用說我完全無法對這類工作提起任何熱情。

追尋夢想?嗯,聽起來很酷,很有自我。

實際上呢?真他媽的有壓力。

做任何事都很累,所以千萬別以為這樣的我就完全不會累。

 

Things In My Life

 

It’s been about two months since I wrote here.

Life has been good for me, and I’m glad it’s working out this way.

I found a job right after finishing school, and it could potentially turn into a permanent job. But even right now, going to China on an all-expense paid trip is pretty cool.

I started taking hustle dance classes more seriously. The first time I took it, I kinda got discouraged. But now I can do a few proper moves and enjoy myself in the dance, adding a new dance to my repertoire. Also got to meet more people and make new friends, which is always a bonus.

My first job paid pretty well, which means finally having money to get together with friends and enjoy some time out, and you know it’s always good to kick it with friends.

Being able to start doing open mics on a more consistant basis is just great, and I’m constantly reminded of why I started doing it in the first place.

My dance club training is coming to an end. The past 9 months has been an amazing journey, and I know it doesn’t end here. Right now, I’m just psyched to see my results at dance battles this year.

Finally set foot in a swimming pool for the first time in seven years. It’s kind of hard to believe that my car accident happened almost ten years ago. Yet after so long, the pool still felt like home. It was like welcoming an old friend back into my life.

I know it seems like a list, but it’s also a measure of how far I’ve come.

Earlier this year, I was at rock bottom emotionally, and I felt like nothing would get better. I hated myself for what I did, and got extremely depressed. For a few weeks, I had to fake my appearance, and pretended I had a drive to push myself.

I managed to get better, and the wounds healed with time. In reality, all we ever needed was time, but the process of getting there seemed to take forever. Somehow school managed to get me through each day, providing me with a purpose and a goal.

As the world brightened up, my interests sparked again, and I found myself being as active as I can. It’s not that I didn’t enjoy sitting at home, watching netflix or strumming my guitar, it’s that there are so many things that I wanted to do, and I felt like I had to do them. Naturally I got busy, and got to improve myself through all this activity.

There are still moments when my mind races back to those memories, the choices I made and the things I did. And I still wonder: Why? Fortunately, I don’t dwell on it anymore, at least not to the point where I’m unable to function. Thank god I didn’t.

Things come in good and bad, and I’m glad I held on to the good before it got away, while keeping the bad at bay. Now I’m just enjoying my life, and working towards my goals and dreams.

Baby steps lead to big strides. At least I know I’m headed in the right direction.

 

 

An Open Letter.

Hey, how are you?

The most cliche opening ever, right?

But I feel that sometimes the most cliche lines are the most genuine ones, don’t you?

Of course you’d agree, you’re me.

Recently, you re-covered a song you first did three years ago. Back then, you were almost 23, just somewhat recovered from a horrible heartbreak. You felt betrayed, lost, angry, and disappointed.

You shifted a lot of focus onto music, just so all of your feelings have an exit. You don’t like to be depressed, despite it being part of your emotional nature. So you try hard to be happy.

Three years later, so many things have happened to you, both good and bad.

The same song that you started out with became one of your signature covers, after singing it for the millionth time (roll eyes). You became a street dancer, performed at open mics, met new people, acted in multiple short videos and short films, and fell in love.

But you also experienced heartbreak, loss of family, disappointments, and (non-clinical) depression. You’ve also made stupid mistakes, hurt people, and let people down as well. Life isn’t all sweets and roses, obviously.

Still, you’ve made it past everything, you’ve learned to embrace the bad and cherish the good, and you’re working to become a better version of you every day, little by little.

You might not have done everything right, and you still have a lot to improve on, but you’re working on it, and that’s what matters.

Your New Year’s Resolution was to become better every day, I guess you’re not doing too bad, huh?

Keep it up, and hopefully three years later, you’ll be singing something new, maybe something you wrote yourself!

Remember, there’s still so much ahead of you, so don’t stand in one place for too long. Keep moving forward, and Godspeed.

Best of luck,

Albert

 

 

 

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I haven’t written a blog in the longest time. Right now, it’s mostly because my life is somewhat mundane and repetitive. No one wants to hear about how I woke up, went to school, got off school, went home, did homework, and went to bed (with meals in between, obviously).

However, I’ve went through quite a bit these last few weeks. I’m not going to go deep into it, at least not now, and certainly not here. But one thing is certain: my emotions and thoughts are pouring out right now. Ever since I concluded my #100DaysOfInsta project, I’ve felt somewhat bottled up. Writing suddenly became an outlet, something to pour my emotions into. Whether it’s song lyrics, short essays, or just simple phrases, it all results from my emotions.

I’ve always enjoyed writing, but I’ve never considered myself good at it. It’s always been my little “hobby" on the side, while I focused more on music and performing. I guess as the years progressed, my grasp on using words and phrases have increased, and all the random writing I did somewhat polished my skills as well.

So this brings me here: this blog.

I will be writing whatever I want here. The first few posts would probably focus on love and relationships, with further expansion into other topics like life experiences, music, movies, culture, etc. I will also alternate between Mandarin and English. This will be a new start.

The last chapter of my life ended on a bad note. Now, let me start a new one, since we all get a clean slate tomorrow. And boy, do I need mine.